​At one time or other, each of us, has had our heart stolen by a “cute puppy”. He or she was the person who, at first, seemed to be the person we’d always hoped to find.  In him or her, we saw all the traits we wanted our significant other to have and imagined that we had at last located our soul mate.

​The key word is “imagined”. Until we really get to know someone, our view of them – who and what they are – is largely imaginary.  We view them through the rosy-colored lenses of our imagination and our earnest longing to find our special person. And, just like a prospective puppy owner in a puppy store, we’re ready to wrap up the little cutie and take him or her home with us – right now.

​You get through the weekend, but the experience has taken a toll on your self-esteem. You begin to have doubts about your desirability as a partner. Your social skills and your ability to be comfortable in social settings head south. In response, you may bury yourself in your work or immerse yourself in your children's activities.

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Whether you're 28 or 68, widowed, divorced or always single, you can get a life - and a life partner. I'm sure of it.

“I’ve been out to coffee with two different men.  The dates were enjoyable, but I knew they weren't for me.  And knowing that was reassuring.

“The guy I met on Sunday was very interesting, but he didn't get a return-to-me ticket.  When he didn't help me with my coat, I began to wonder what other common day-to-day, make-life-easier-and-nicer things he also doesn’t feel are important.  I mean, if he doesn't help me with my coat, there is no way he will put my jammies in the dryer on a rainy day when I am not feeling well.  The husband of a friend of mine does that!

​“I suppose we all have different measurements.  Me, I am looking for a man to warm my jammies and fix me tea on a rainy day when I’m not feeling well.”