​As you may be aware, I talk with single people every day.  A frequent topic of our discussions is past dating relationships.  We talk about where, when and how my client met a former relationship partner; what attracted my client to them, and what the pair struggled with that ultimately ended the relationship. Once we get this far, my client typically says something like, “He/she wasn’t right for me. I never should have dated them in the first place.”

How can it be that so many bright, accomplished people have the same experience? 

The answer is actually simple.  On the one hand, dating is a way to try on a relationship pairing to see if it fits us.  On the other hand, dating is also a way to create and grow a relationship with the intent of marriage or a permanent pairing.

​​As anyone who has ever worn contact lenses (or attempted to wear them) knows, there will be "adventures."  Most adventures happen when you’re new to the art of installing and removing those tiny, thin, slippery plastic discs from your eyes.  But even after you’ve mastered the art, you will – without any warning whatsoever – have more of them.

There are mornings when you seem to be all thumbs and can’t seem to hit your target. You aim for your eye, blink, and find the lens on the tip of your nose, the crest of your cheek, the edge of your chin or on the front of your shirt. There are times when the lens lands in the sink and has to be rinsed off again. There are times when it lands in the sink and (gasp!) slides right down the drain, which is an affront to both your wallet and your self-esteem.