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By Amy Owens, The Singles Coach There are two ways that people typically shop for a mate – the way a woman buys shoes and the way a man buys vehicles.
A woman buys shoes because of the way they look. She sees a pair of shoes that appeals to her and instantly falls in love with them because of the way they look. She tries them on. If they fit, she buys them. If they don’t, she makes excuses for why they don’t fit and buys them anyway. Oprah did this all the time. She would stride onto her show wearing a stylish pair of shoes, make glowing comments about the shoes to the audience, and then complain that they didn’t really fit. She even coined the phrase, “10-minute shoes,” to describe shoes that were so uncomfortable that she could wear them for only ten minutes.
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By Amy Owens, The Singles Coach
By Amy Ownes, The Singles Coach As anyone who has ever worn contact lenses (or attempted to wear them) knows, there will be "adventures." Most adventures happen when you’re new to the art of installing and removing those tiny, thin, slippery plastic discs from your eyes. But even after you’ve mastered the art, you will – without any warning whatsoever – have more of them. There are mornings when you seem to be all thumbs and can’t seem to hit your target. You aim for your eye, blink, and find the lens on the tip of your nose, the crest of your cheek, the edge of your chin or on the front of your shirt. There are times when the lens lands in the sink and has to be rinsed off again. There are times when it lands in the sink and (gasp!) slides right down the drain, which is an affront to both your wallet and your self-esteem. By Amy Owens, The Singles Coach We’ve all been admonished to avoid shopping when we’re hungry. Why? Because our hunger will affect our decision-making. We won’t be as discerning and our impulse control will be diminished.
Result? We’ll buy more than we need – because we have a deficit that we feel some urgency to fill. Everything will look good to us. We’ll buy items that we don’t typically buy and/or we’ll buy things that aren’t good for us. Because our discernment filters aren’t functioning properly, we’ll engage in some magical thinking, i.e., we’ll make up excuses for why our errant choices are OK or at least justified. We’ll tell ourselves things like, “It’s been a while since I’ve had that…Just this one time…I really need something, and I need to have it now.” Sound familiar? |
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