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When a Man Loves a Woman

8/15/2020

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By Amy Owens, The Singles Coach
​​The world is populated by simplifiers and complicators.  We need both. Together, they make the world go around.
 
As a general rule, men are simplifiers. Women are complicators.
 
Men have the innate capacity for boiling down the complex to a few valuable nuggets. One of those nuggets relates to what is important in life.  For most men, it goes something like this:  Get a good education so you can get a good job so you can support your family; find a beautiful woman that you can make happy. It’s that simple. Find a beautiful woman and make her happy.
OK, why doesn’t every couple live happily ever after?  Lots of reasons: 1) Women don’t know this; and 2) Women resist letting men know what will make them happy.

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The Hole in the Parking Lot

8/15/2020

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By Amy Owens, The Singles Coach
​​Greg, a student in my singles course, emailed saying, “I’ve been giving a fair amount of thought to the ‘big hole in the parking lot’ you talked about in the workshop last week.  Although the metaphor helps women who might be apt to wait by the phone the same evening for the man to call, I believe it could help a number of men – including me.”

Greg went on to describe a wonderful first date with a woman he found particularly interesting.  He sent her an email the next day but got no response – for three days.  “I began to turn over in my mind what I had said or done that made her not only not want to meet a second time, but not even want to return my email.

”Finally, she called and told me she was still in a relationship.  In a way, it was a relief to learn that it really had nothing to do with me.  But, it probably would have helped immediately for me to imagine her being swallowed up by a big black hole.”

Ladies, the words “I’ll call you” are a multi-purpose tool in most men’s relationship toolbox.  When a man wants to see a woman again, he says he will call.  When he’s unsure about seeing her again, he says he will call.  If he doesn’t know what to say, he says he will call.  If he doesn’t want to hurt her feelings, he says he will call.

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Seeking Solace

8/15/2020

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 By Amy Owens, The Singles Coach
​I recently heard a crisis expert say, "We are all seeking nurture, closeness and reassurance now."

Yes, this is a time when we all want to connect and to feel connected to other people.  The longing and the need to connect may be even stronger for single people - especially if we don't have or don't feel connected to a family or a cohesive group of supportive friends.  I believe this is a time when singles might be tempted to rush into relationships we would have shunned in more "normal" times.

​A case in point is a 30-year old woman who registered for Dating Boot Camp in early September.  She had never married and wasn't dating anyone at the time she registered.  Four weeks later, she emailed me, "I've met a wonderful man, and I'm not going to need your classes!!!"

In a subsequent phone conversation, she gleefully told me that she and her "wonderful man" are planning to get married in mid-January.  They have only known each other for a month, and they are planning their wedding!  I truly hope it works out for them, but I am very concerned - for both of them.

​Relationships, all relationships, take time to develop.  If we try to rush the process, we make mistakes.  A cake takes a certain amount of time to bake, and we cannot take it out of the oven just because "we can't wait."  If we do, we end up with a soggy, gooey mess - a disappointment to everyone.

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Pep Talk

8/15/2020

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By Amy Owens, The Singles Coach
When you're single, it's easy to feel like you're on the outside looking in.

You walk through the mall looking at all the people, most of them in pairs, and you wonder to yourself, "He/she is not nearly as attractive as I. How come he/she is partnered and I'm not?" Or, if you live alone, you arrive home on a Friday night knowing that once you close the door, it may be Monday before you have any significant contact with another human being. You may "tough out" the weekend or head for the coffee shop on Saturday or Sunday just so you can be around other people. If you're lucky, you get to exchange a few pleasantries with someone.
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​You get through the weekend, but the experience has taken a toll on your self-esteem. You begin to have doubts about your desirability as a partner. Your social skills and your ability to be comfortable in social settings head south. In response, you may bury yourself in your work or immerse yourself in your children's activities.

​It doesn't have to be that way! You can do the singles scene in real time.

Whether you're 28 or 68, widowed, divorced or always single, you can get a life - and a life partner. I'm sure of it.

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